There are a lot of things mom tells you when you’re a kid that you discredit or disregard thinking you know better. You continue to lead your life confident you’ve got it handled but little by little realise just how very wrong you were. Soon mom’s lessons and teachings start to make sense. Little by little, as time passes, you start to realise the advice
you’re giving friends is the same advice she gave you. Initially you avoid accepting that she was right all along – though deep down you know it’s true – and eventually, with dismay, you begin to accept and embrace her teachings as facts.
We’ve all been there. It’s an important part of learning. Inevitable. So here are ten lessons I learned through experiences, good and bad, that I
could should have just trusted to be true when my mother told me the first time.
Don’t care about the opinions and judgement of others
Honesty is the best policy
Lying can often be tempting, especially when you’re a kid. Whether it is a little white lie to evade answering a question or an elaborate excuse to get out of a commitment, it’s usually an easy way out. It may seem convenient in the moment but it is more than probable that truth will eventually come out, and it’s rarely ‘pretty’ when it does. Regardless of the intentions behind a lie, be they honourable or not, people rarely take well to being deceived, not to mention, it’s a lot easier living without keeping track of your lies with a clean conscience. For your sake and that of others, avoid lying at all costs, no matter how trivial the lie may seem.
If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything
Trust deeply but with caution
Trust is tricky, it takes years to earn and seconds to lose. It’s important to have people you trust and can depend on, but it’s also terrible to trust someone and end up disappointed and hurt as a result. Be cautious with who you trust and respectful of those who trust you.
Choose your friends well
Studies say that you are most like the five people you spend the most time with. It is true that the people who surround you can help develop and inspire you, but it’s also equally possible that they stunt and limit you. For this reason it’s important to surround yourself with positive influences that will not only make good company, but help you grow.
Respect yourself and others
Don’t let people walk all over you and don’t walk over others, make sure to treat others the way you want to be treated. Know your worth without letting it get to your head and ensure others know it too.
Be who you are don’t loose touch with yourself
Less is more
Quality over quantity. This counts for everything from your friends to your wardrobe. It’s easy to get lost in daydreams about what you don’t have and what you want, but if you live focusing on what you don’t have, you’ll never be happy. If you’re happy with what you have, you’ll always end up having more.
Learn to say ‘no’
Learn to say no even though its hard sometimes. It’s important to avoid saying ‘yes’ when you don’t mean it. It can often lead to tricky situations and make it harder to say no. Knowing how and when to say no shows respect for others and yourself.
Try new things and don’t be afraid of the unknown
There’s no such thing as ‘later’. It’s always convenient to postpone and procrastinate starting, doing, or trying things. However, delaying and making excuses will get you nowhere most of the time. There is no time like the present so embrace it. If you are provided with an opportunity, take it. Use it to your advantage. Use it to grow. Don’t pass up on the chance to do something because you can do it ‘later’ or ‘some other time’.
Carpe diem. Seize the day. Live without regrets.
Until next time,
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